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Feb
27

Want Something Real Bad? Ignore It (they say)

Quote of the Day:

A watched pot never boils.”     –cliche*

They say that if  you want something to happen very badly–find true love, receive an overdue promotion, have a sip of delicious hot tea–you must not concentrate on the result. In fact, it is much better if you forget about what you want altogether. Only then, they reliably inform us, will you achieve your purpose.

TB hates this cliche.

Yet, I must confess. I used it this weekend and not for the first time. Sometimes it just comes in so damn handy; particularly when something good comes to oneself or those near and dear to him, something they have long deserved and desired and about which they have all but given up hope. But did the aspirant lover have nothing in common with his mate? Did he not charm her with his dry wit and sly grin? Did the girl not work diligently for years on end? Did she not earn the company outsized profits? Did the burner not produce heat? Is the boiling point a matter for political debate?

Nonsense! Yet, there again, the ignoring obviously did not hurt the cause of the lover, the worker nor the tea. Can looking the other way actually help?

It happens too often to dismiss the notion entirely. Let’s just agree to never suggest it as a course of action for someone who is lonely, under appreciated, or thirsty. I’ve been there. I still hate the damn cliche. Even if, in my own life, it’s turned out so often to be true.

Well, we know what they say. What say you?

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*A bit of researchipedia turns up an interesting fact on the origin of this cliche. According to two sites (which may very well have relied upon the other–who knows–the quote comes from  English author Elizabeth Gaskell’s Mary Barton (1848).

 

  • Harmony

    Well of course you don’t like the cliche, if you liked and used it in everyday thinking it wouldn’t work. So you have to hate it in order for it to work. Otherwise the whole earth’s rotation would be off and severe damage to our timeline as human beings would be compromised. For the the love of all things holy, do not like, entrust, or worship your life away to cliches. Just randomly acknowledge them without looking them in the eye.

    February 28 2012
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    • I’ve read a good bit about quarks, quantum physics, relativity, and shit. I read about them to see how quickly I can declare, “I don’t understand this.” This video is a good illustration of how my thought process works. It usually goes like this, “Ok, I got that. I understand that. Yep, got it. Um, wait, nope, hold on. Ok, you’ve lost me. Yeah, that means nothing to me. What are you talking about now? Wait, you’re using a new word and I didn’t understand that last step. Go back. Crap. Never mind.” And then I return to my normal state of basic level consciousness.

      February 28 2012
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      • Travellinbaen

        that is awesome. my mind is blown. I feel quite refreshed now.

        February 27 2012
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        • Mac

          Will be intrigued to see the responses to this. Of course observing the pot has no effect on the rate at which the water boils. But it seems to take longer when you watch it. Which means it is relative to your visual experience. It didn’t take any longer but it seemed to you that it did. Now are you ready for a mind freak? In the world of quantum physics, the mere act of observing DOES change the outcome.

          February 27 2012
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